Sometimes it can be hard and frustrating to keep your love life exciting and fun when you do not know what to do. People who are in a relationship know that love is all about knowing each other physically and emotionally. There is no way these two can work alone. If you are a woman who wants your relationship with your man to last, then this is the article for you. Men are visual creatures. If you want to spice up things in bed with your boyfriend, there are certain freaky and dirty things you can do and say to turn on your man and keep him coming back for more.

Years ago, when I broke up with my first serious boyfriend — who I'd been in a relationship with for nearly four years — he wasn't just a guy I dated for a long time; he was the first guy I ever had sex with as well. He also became sexually abusive over time, and sexually assaulted me on more than one occasion, so having sex with someone new after all of that was both freeing and frightening. During the months following our breakup, I mostly had a lot of fun sleeping with new people; but I also found that, as fun and exciting as having sex with a new partner can be, it can also be kind of stressful. I mean, you're naked, something hilariously awkward is bound to happen before the sex is over, and even if you're just trying to have a casual, one-time hookup, sex with someone new still requires a certain level of trust that's not always easy to give — especially if your sexual history hasn't been the happiest. Fortunately, though, there are ways to make sex with someone new awesome. To learn more, Bustle asked Angela Skurtu , M. Louis-based sex therapist and podcaster, her tips for making first-time sex with a new partner a fun and healthy experience.

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